(very) Post wedding refiefs!

I was never much of a girly girl. I have to say I never dreamed of my wedding day or "married" my dolls. (Although I used to have audio evidence that my brother did....... hmmmmmm.......) Anyway, that being said I think if you are a girl you have at least some level of wedding likey-ness in you. For me it is voyeuristic. My particular guilty pleasures are Say Yes to the Dress (Atlanta, mainly) and Bridezillas. How can you not love watching people dress up in gorgeous gowns and crazy mixed up psycho drama? Plus, I have netflix so I just get to watch them marathon style. One lets me reminisce and the other lets me turn to Chuck and say "see how lucky you were?" (hey! I meant that respectively!) But they also make me say "wow, look how lucky I was!" Part of it was because of me- I'm pretty low key and I'm sure that made planning a bit easier. I think if you don't over plan as a 7 year old it is easier to achieve expectations. But I am super overwhelmingly grateful to my parents. Not just for paying (although I very much am!) but for all the support and allowing me to be me. Can't say money was no object but I don't think I ever heard the word no. Maybe a "we'll see what we can do" but not no. I said I didn't want "standard" and they did awesomely at providing that for me. (So good, in fact that our wedding still remains the gold standard amongst some of the attendees.) But back to the shows... I have to say I am truly grateful when it came to getting my dress. First, let me say, I was smart enough to just bring my mom shopping. Well, I would have liked my grandma and mother- in- law there but they didn't live close enough. I have seen too many episodes of Say Yes where people bring up to 13 (I know!) people with them. But I'm still thankful that my mom would have smacked me if I had tried such foolishness. Of course my mom had some opinions on what was appropriate. Luckily for me they were pretty much on the same page as what I wanted anyway. In the end I know it was just about making me happy. And when my father and grandmother saw the dress I choose they were nothing but supportive and complimentary. Nothing brings that into focus more than an episode where the mom says she is just picking out the dress she would've have wanted to wear and then actually trying it on at her daughters appointment! I wedding is not the time to live vicariously! (thank you mommy!)